Where do you meet date worthy guys?

I wanted to toss this out there since I'm still pretty clueless about this. It would be nice to hear specifics from people in the Seattle area, but general suggestions are nice too. I've been dating guys for eight months now. Pretty much everyone I have gone out with have been guys that I've met online.

I live in a house in a neighborhood. Seattle has an area called Capitol Hill which is the gayest part of town, but it is a relatively integrated community so gay guys are all over. I joined a gay sports league and have become involved in a gay community group. I view both of these things as planting seeds that will pay off on the long run. My goal with them also isn't to make sure that I have a date every weekend.

Any other suggestions? Just general ideas would be great. Any fun gay social outings that people can share?

As for online, I've tried gay.com, Manhunt, Craigslist, Connexion, and match.com. Manhunt seems to be just for sexual hookups. Gay.com seems to not know whether it is a dating or hookup site. Match.com is obviously more of a dating site and seems to get higher quality profiles, but there just aren't many guys on it and it neglects gay basics such as HIV status. I've actually had the best luck scanning craigslist just searching for the occasional normal post in the sea of cocks, balls, and asses. Connexion is kind of neat, but there just aren't that many guys on it and it doesn't seem very active.

I actually think that the market for relationship oriented gay dating is left largely ignored. I think that there is a good business opportunity that is untapped.

I've done the gay bar / club thing twice. Once was when I was dating a guy over the summer and I went with him and a group of friends. We went to R Place which is a young hipster place. I had fun but I was just there dancing with my friends and being stupid.

A couple of weeks ago I went with a group of gay friends and went to Purr, Neighbors, and the Cuff. Purr was mainly just a bar with surprisingly attractive guys sitting around and ignoring each other. Neighbors seemed like the cliche idea of what straight people think a gay dance club would be like. The Cuff seemed like a place where desperate, older, unattractive people go to get laid. I found that going clubbing is sort of boring when you are single, not much of a drinker, and not looking to go home with someone.

In the meantime, I've been mostly focusing on expanding my circle of gay friends. It's grown from one to six over the last year. I've had much more success with that than dating and it has proven more rewarding. I realized one potentially troubling thing is that I am more picky and have a higher bar for friends than I would for dating. I suppose that would probably mean that I'm too focused on appearance as far as dating goes. Ugh...